losing weight

Today’s email from Isabel De Los Rios and The Diet Solution touched on something that rings close to me and that I think is really important.  The mental and emotional side of losing weight.  Anyone who ignores this is only destined to fail.  Yes, you may lose some weight now, maybe even a lot of weight, but if you don’t feel that you deserve it, see yourself as a thin person who is happy and active and whole or if you continue with the negative talk, it is very likely you will gain all the weight back and more.

This is something I have really struggled with.  In The Gabriel Method Jon talks a lot about envisioning yourself as a thin happy person.   I have had such a hard time with this.  Not only could I not see myself thin, but I didn’t believe I could ever be thin again or even that I deserved to be.  This is the exact reason I took a break from actively trying to lose weight and concentrated on getting my head straight while continuing to improve my eating habits (nutrition and portion control) as well as learning to like exercising because it makes me feel good and not to punish myself for being overweight.

Isabel gets this too and the first chapter of The Diet Solution is dedicated to this.  Today she sent an email that talked directly to this part of the weight loss journey with some really good ideas for changing these patterns.

The strategy that touched me the most was that we should be talking to ourselves like we talk to our children.  Isn’t that so powerful?

We fill our children with love and support, we tell them they can do anything they put their minds to, that if they work hard and show passion they can achieve anything.  And when they are scared or nervous or feel insecure, we give them the best, most heartfelt pep talks.  We hold them close and tell them how proud we are of them and how we know that they are capable and brave.

But when we feel those same things, we turn on ourselves.  I would fill my head with doubt and fear, blame and anger.  I would tell myself how lazy and stupid I was for not being able to do it.  I would get angry at anyone who tried to encourage me or support me, because I didn’t really deserve it anyway.  Sound familiar?

Well, I’m done with that.  I deserve to accomplish anything in my life that I set my mind to.  I deserve to be happy and healthy and loved and supported.  I deserve these things just as much as my children do and I can see that thin, healthy, happy, fulfilled person now and I’m going after it.  And you can too.

Every day I am more and more impressed with Isabel.  I really encourage you to check out The Diet Solution.

This is the email she sent today in it’s entirety.  I hope it is ok that I shared it this way, I just felt it would be important for you to read.

Hey Karin,

I was remembering back several years ago when I used to do one on one client coaching, I had a great call with a client. It was actually her last coaching call with me and I wanted to be sure that I left her with all the “tools” she needed to maintain and continue her incredible weight loss success.

Me: “What do you think will be the most difficult challenge for you moving forward?”

I was expecting an answer like traveling, going out to dinner, maybe even cravings, but that was not the case.

Client: “Isabel, the absolute hardest thing for me is the mental part of losing weight. I see how successful I’ve been and I clearly see the results in the mirror, but I still find myself doing a lot of negative self talk. It’s almost like I know I’m going to blow it, just like I have so many other times.”

WOW! Talk about honesty. And I know she is not the only person who is going through the same thing. I can remember years ago when I first lost all of my weight, I would get compliments from people and I would always thing to myself, “Yeah, whatever, let’s see how long this really lasts.”

But there is a reason why the FIRST chapter in the Diet Solution Program Manual is about MENTAL PREPARATION because this is an ESSENTIAL first step. It doesn’t matter how good the information is, how easy I have made it for you, or how delicious the food is. If you’re going to talk yourself out of your own success all day, then you might as well just throw in the towel now (in this case, walk away from the computer and stop reading).

So how exactly did I overcome this common hurdle? Here are some strategies I use even today in my life that keep me focused, motivated and always working towards my goal.

1. I start each and every morning with a gratitude list. This is non-negotiable! It takes me no more than 3 minutes and it changes my spirits for the entire day. How’s setting aside 3-5 minutes for a joyous rest of the day? Worth it, right? I write “I am so grateful for…” and then just write, write and write. For me that list always includes my family, my health and my work. I wouldn’t start any day without this!

2. I go to sleep each night playing my personal mind movie in my head as I go to sleep. What is a personal mind movie? Basically, it’s you imagining yourself looking, feeling and doing whatever it is you would do if you achieved your health and weight loss goals. Imagine yourself in a particular outfit, at a party getting compliments, participating in some awesome athletic event. Athletes have actually used this strategy for decades with much success. This approach helps me to fall asleep happy and is much better than lying there thinking about all the things I have to do the next day or harping on stressful events. I sleep so much better at night like this!

3. Only talk to yourself as you would a small child (This one is my favorite and given to me by my best friend Jackie). Would you tell your children all day long that they were never going to achieve their goals, that they should stop trying or that they shouldn’t even try in the first place? No, I sure hope you wouldn’t. You would encourage them, give them hope, and tell them that anything is possible with hard work. Treat yourself, in your own mind, the way you would want to speak to your children or better yet, the way you would want others to speak to your children or speak to you.

Karin, keep your eye on the prize because the prize of the body you are dreaming about is within your reach! If I can do it, so can YOU! Tell yourself how awesome you are and how this time you are changing your life and there is no looking back.

Speaking of keeping your eye on the prize, I just got the most wonderful celebration email from my friend Joel Marion. He had set his goal to help as many people around the world achieve their own weight loss goals and getting his information out to every person that was ready to take his Xtreme weight loss challenge.

He has accomplished just that and is celebrating the Xtreme Fat Loss Diet system officially becoming the #1 Bestselling e-book on the internet right now!

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I couldn’t be happier or more proud of him, and if you are one of the 20,000 people that has decided to take him up on his offer, I am proud of you too!

Take a look at Joel’s celebration page here:

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And join me as we give Joel a big round of applause. Bravo…(clap, clap, clap).

Keep your eye on your own prize…and you will get there!

In health and happiness,

Isabel De Los Rios
Certified Nutritionist
Certified Exercise Specialist
Author of www.TheDietSolutionProgram.com

PS – If you enjoyed today’s newsletter, feel free to forward this email on to any of your friends, family, or co-workers that would also enjoy the information.

Have a really great day and remember to care for yourself, you deserve it.

Well, I made it through my first Extreme Fat Loss Diet fast day.   It wasn’t really as hard as I thought it was going to be.

The morning was easy as I am never really hungry until late in the morning anyway.

The tough part for me was the afternoon.  I get those crazy afternoon hunger pains anyway so I was going nutso for a couple of hours, but then it subsided and the evening was a breeze.  By they time I was sitting on the couch watching Lost with my husband I felt great actually, no hunger and a significant sense of calm.

I will say that feeding my kids dinner was tough.  I just wanted to snatch the food right off their plates.  And then I asked my husband to eat while I was at my swimming class so I wouldn’t have to watch him eat, but I walked in the door and he was putting the finishing touches on a chicken burger.  My mouth watered something fierce and I had to leave the room, but really no biggie.

The BCAA capsules that I purchased are the biggest pills I have ever seen, but surprisingly easy to swallow.  Taking them throughout the day ensured that I guzzled massive amounts of water and filled my belly, if only temporarily.

Some tips for getting through the day….

  1. Stay Busy.  Get out and about as much as you can. Tackle something consuming at work. If you are stuck at home like me, then find a project that needs to be done or a hobby you haven’t picked up in a while.  Also, use your workouts to your advantage, you have three of them today.
  2. Embrace the Hunger.  When the hunger hit it’s worse about mid afternoon I went looking for advice (well and really just another thing to keep me occupied.  Nothing like a targeted Internet search for info to kill some time).  The biggest thing that I found from both those fasting for health and religious purposes is to embrace the hunger, not fight it.  That also reminds me of what my therapist is telling me about negative thought, anxiety, depression or whatever your dealing with: “Acknowledge the feeling and then let it pass through you and out the other side”.  This is highly effective, but often easier said
  3. Drink Hot Liquids.  I had a cup of coffee (with xylitol to sweeten) mid afternoon and that made all the difference in the world.  Warm and satisfying a cup of tea or coffee can really do the trick.  It also gives you something with taste to sip on.
  4. Drink a Ton of Water.  I just kept the water coming all day.  I carried a big bottle around with me everywhere and guzzled several large glasses each time I took my BCAA supplements.
  5. Focus on the Results.  This is the biggie.  It is only one day and there are only five in the whole program.  Totally doable.  And just think about how great you are going to look and feel when you are done.

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This process never ceases to amaze me.  The weirdest stuff is happening to me.  I squarely chalk this up to the fact that I must have had some serious stuff built up in my system as well as a significant amount of emotional blockage.

It has taken a while and I even was starting to think that even though I felt great that maybe this wasn’t going to work for my weight loss.  I have been at this for a while now and I have experienced some amazing changes in my mood and physical well being, but not much actual weight loss.

Jon even says in the book that the more barriers you have to losing weight the longer it will take for the weight loss to begin.  Even though it has taken a long time,  I just kept going with it.  It wasn’t even like I had a lot of choice, my body was making changes and demanding different foods and I just was open to it and let it happen at its own pace.

These last couple of weeks has been really crazy with traveling and multiple dinner guests and the kids being home and Ian having a growth spurt while cutting molars and now finally I have a doozy of a cold that has taken my appetite and any desire I have to move from a horizontal position on the couch.

But in spite of all that these really amazing things have happened and also some weird ones as well.

I forgave my father.  This is the biggest of emotional barriers obliterated and something I wasn’t sure I would ever be able to do.  He hurt me so badly and I have been carrying so much anger and pain around with me for such a long time.  But that anger isn’t doing me any good, it is just holding me back and so I am letting it go.

Along with this has come a strong desire to search him out.  He is aging and alone and my guess is not too happy and he is my dad and I love him despite his many aggregious acts and faults and I want to fix things between us before it is too late.    I know that he wont want this from me because he can’t accept my own acts and faults, but I feel that our life lessons are tied together somehow and that we have a lot to learn from each other no matter how hard that may be for either one of us.

I have also felt some sort of chemical shift has taken place in my body.  I just feel different and my physical body is starting to change.  My clothes are looser and I know the weight is starting to come off.  I look completely different to myself in the mirror.

I have also gotten really sick.  I haven’t been sick with any seriousness since before I got pregnant with Ian.   My hair is also falling out.  Nothing to be worried about, but I haven’t had any hair in the shower drain since I got pregnant with Ian and now the normal amount for someone with longish hair is there.  I didn’t even lose my hair after he was born like you are supposed to.

I know it sounds crazy, but I really think that my body never adjusted to not being pregnant.  The chemicals just kept going.  Jon talks about pregnancy being a time when your body turns on the FAT programs.  Is it possible that those programs simply never got turned off?  That would certainly explain a lot of things;  My hair continuing to be thicker and healthier than normal, my late onset postpartum depression, my bomb proof immune system and my persistent lack of weight movement among many other things too personal to discuss.

But, whatever it was has definitely changed over the last couple of weeks and my weight is finally moving.   Still not getting on the scale until October, but I have a lot more faith that the number when I do will be significantly lower than it was when I began or is now.

Yea!

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