Comments on: Dealing With Emotional Weight Issues http://redesignedmom.com/2009/05/29/dealing-with-emotional-weight-issues/ A Stay at Home Mom's Journey to Self Fulfillment Mon, 16 Aug 2010 13:50:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: ellent http://redesignedmom.com/2009/05/29/dealing-with-emotional-weight-issues/comment-page-1/#comment-1687 ellent Sun, 31 May 2009 22:12:27 +0000 http://redesignedmom.com/?p=903#comment-1687 Karin: I love your spirit. Don't give up. You are on the right track. I think that Jon Gabriel is a walking success story but my recall is that it took him a while of doing this before the weight started coming off. Ellen www.healthaftertrauma.com Karin:

I love your spirit. Don’t give up. You are on the right track.

I think that Jon Gabriel is a walking success story but my recall is that it took him a while of doing this before the weight started coming off.

Ellen

http://www.healthaftertrauma.com

]]> By: Paul Holmes http://redesignedmom.com/2009/05/29/dealing-with-emotional-weight-issues/comment-page-1/#comment-1676 Paul Holmes Sun, 31 May 2009 03:49:15 +0000 http://redesignedmom.com/?p=903#comment-1676 I think I understand about the younger pictures. When I think back to when I was 17 I was very insecure, very self-conscious and somewhat awkward. However, there is at least one good thing about age. The older you get the more you get past those young insecurities. So I just see that "handsome" young man now (LOL) and don't think about all that inward turmoil I was really going through. You, however, are much younger and closer to that time of your life. Maybe if you found a beautiful model in a magazine that was close to your body type, with the same color hair that might work. For me, that young picture seems to work great, except that I have to realize all that hair is not coming back with the weight loss! Oh, well! Paul I think I understand about the younger pictures. When I think back to when I was 17 I was very insecure, very self-conscious and somewhat awkward. However, there is at least one good thing about age. The older you get the more you get past those young insecurities. So I just see that “handsome” young man now (LOL) and don’t think about all that inward turmoil I was really going through. You, however, are much younger and closer to that time of your life.

Maybe if you found a beautiful model in a magazine that was close to your body type, with the same color hair that might work. For me, that young picture seems to work great, except that I have to realize all that hair is not coming back with the weight loss! Oh, well!

Paul

]]> By: admin http://redesignedmom.com/2009/05/29/dealing-with-emotional-weight-issues/comment-page-1/#comment-1673 admin Sun, 31 May 2009 03:11:52 +0000 http://redesignedmom.com/?p=903#comment-1673 Hi Paul, thanks for stopping by and sharing your perspective. As you said, becoming comfortable in your own skin is an important step. I have some pictures of myself as a younger, leaner me, but I have been hesitant to use those as my set point because I am really trying to grow past the person that I was then. That person was pretty broken and definitely not the person I want to go back to, although physically she looked pretty great. That is the person I still see when I close my eyes (although I can't see her looking thin and pretty -- she is usually bloated and angry), but the person I want to see is thin and fit and whole and healthy and full of love and appreciation for life. Still working on finding the imagery that will work for me. I too have been amazed how my cravings have changed since I started this. I actually make pretty good choices most of the time and feel more energy and motivation. As we all do, I have my moments, but like you mentioned, I either eat less or don't feel good afterwards and regret it. The emotional stuff is what is holding me back I am afraid I find myself self sabotaging to accommodate them. I am encouraged by the changes I am feeling and very excited about the psychological leaps I am making. I just have a few more latent issues to deal with before anything is going to work for me. In the meantime, just doing the work. Thanks again and make sure to let us know about your successes. Hi Paul, thanks for stopping by and sharing your perspective. As you said, becoming comfortable in your own skin is an important step.

I have some pictures of myself as a younger, leaner me, but I have been hesitant to use those as my set point because I am really trying to grow past the person that I was then. That person was pretty broken and definitely not the person I want to go back to, although physically she looked pretty great. That is the person I still see when I close my eyes (although I can’t see her looking thin and pretty — she is usually bloated and angry), but the person I want to see is thin and fit and whole and healthy and full of love and appreciation for life. Still working on finding the imagery that will work for me.

I too have been amazed how my cravings have changed since I started this. I actually make pretty good choices most of the time and feel more energy and motivation. As we all do, I have my moments, but like you mentioned, I either eat less or don’t feel good afterwards and regret it. The emotional stuff is what is holding me back I am afraid I find myself self sabotaging to accommodate them.

I am encouraged by the changes I am feeling and very excited about the psychological leaps I am making. I just have a few more latent issues to deal with before anything is going to work for me. In the meantime, just doing the work.

Thanks again and make sure to let us know about your successes.

]]> By: Paul Holmes http://redesignedmom.com/2009/05/29/dealing-with-emotional-weight-issues/comment-page-1/#comment-1671 Paul Holmes Sun, 31 May 2009 02:35:27 +0000 http://redesignedmom.com/?p=903#comment-1671 Just ordered the Gabriel Method. Don't know how I discovered it, but when I saw the pictures of his transition from 409 lbs to 183 lbs and how lean and trim he looked in the end I was shocked and intrigued. I've now listened to the audio book almost twice and have been listening to the visualization CD on my iPod every night. Two things I'm determined to do: not worry about what I weigh now -- accept myself happily as I am -- and to stop judging whether I ate too little or too much today. Today just happens to be a day I've probably eaten too much but I don't care! I no longer diet. However, the past few days I've been intrigued by the fact that certain foods I usually binge on I just don't binge on any more. I have them and find I only want a few crackers, or say, two granola bars, instead of unconciously wolfing down all six in the package as I used to. By the way, I don't even have a picture on hand, but I do remember a picture of myself at seventeen, tall and lean, at my perfect weight, and that is what I visualize. I believe I'm beginning to change that subconcious fat setpoint by visualizing myself in that picture every time I think about my weight. Good luck to you. It sounds like you're growing into it, recognizing areas you glossed over, etc. I plan to continue to listen to the audio edition of the book over and over again until it all really gels, and to the relaxation cd every night. Paul Holmes P.S. I'm a 57 year old sedantary cab driver with an extra 30 pounds I haven't been able to diet away for the last 18 years. I really think I've stumbled onto the answer with the Gabriel method. Just ordered the Gabriel Method. Don’t know how I discovered it, but when I saw the pictures of his transition from 409 lbs to 183 lbs and how lean and trim he looked in the end I was shocked and intrigued.

I’ve now listened to the audio book almost twice and have been listening to the visualization CD on my iPod every night.

Two things I’m determined to do: not worry about what I weigh now — accept myself happily as I am — and to stop judging whether I ate too little or too much today. Today just happens to be a day I’ve probably eaten too much but I don’t care! I no longer diet.

However, the past few days I’ve been intrigued by the fact that certain foods I usually binge on I just don’t binge on any more. I have them and find I only want a few crackers, or say, two granola bars, instead of unconciously wolfing down all six in the package as I used to.

By the way, I don’t even have a picture on hand, but I do remember a picture of myself at seventeen, tall and lean, at my perfect weight, and that is what I visualize. I believe I’m beginning to change that subconcious fat setpoint by visualizing myself in that picture every time I think about my weight.

Good luck to you. It sounds like you’re growing into it, recognizing areas you glossed over, etc. I plan to continue to listen to the audio edition of the book over and over again until it all really gels, and to the relaxation cd every night.

Paul Holmes

P.S. I’m a 57 year old sedantary cab driver with an extra 30 pounds I haven’t been able to diet away for the last 18 years. I really think I’ve stumbled onto the answer with the Gabriel method.

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